Robin Sieger Blog

How do you see the world? Through rose tinted glasses where everything is wonderful, even though more likely than not you are being somewhat delusional? As it is often the reality, ignoring reality, doesn’t fix reality. Or do you see the world through dark glasses?

Do you look for the problems or the reasons to find fault in others? Do you have a negative slant on every endeavour in relation to its future outcome.

It is easy to metaphorically wear dark glasses and everything you see will be darker than it really is. The problem as I see it is, many people who are pessimistic about the future, and the present moment, will always justify their viewpoint by giving evidence of what they have seen and experienced. A person with low self esteem and feelings of unworthiness will assume people will not like them, so when they meet a new person they will project onto them their expectations - the expectation that this person will not like them. So after the meeting if you say how did you get on with Fred? They will tell you, "Oh Fred didn't like me". If you ask them how can they tell? They will mention something they said, their body language, or the fact that they were looking around the room, in fact if there is no evidence (as there frequently isn't), they have to invent it.

The reason is they are only seeing and hearing what they want, in order to validate their expectation. The reason for this is due to the dark glasses they are only seeing half the picture. They see it darker than it is, they ignore what they don’t want to see.

I have met people who without doubt are bigoted individuals with a strong sense of their superior importance, in a racial context. They think that ethnically they are better than a person of another race. When they have met a kind, interesting and pleasant person from another ethnic origin, they refer to the person later by their ethnicity and not their name, and due to their blindness cannot see where their blindness has led them. They may say, "He was nice for an Indian". It is frustrating beyond belief that a law does not exist that allows us to give them a custard pie in the face as a timely reminder of their blindness.

The real problem is they don't know they are wearing them, because they've never taken them off. Have a check now to see if yours are in your suitcase awaiting your sunshine vacation.

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